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How to Find Your Passion: 6 Therapists Weigh In.

May 14, 2020shemindfully

All throughout my life I have heard people refer to this elusive ~passion~. People find their passion at 23 or 52 and know right away, this is it, this is the thing I’m meant to do. This is almost as elusive as the ever-mysterious romantic “one” we’re supposed to find and marry right away. Lately, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the question: What is passion?

Passion can be defined as “Intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or convictionper Merriam Webster. Alternatively, it can be cited as “a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept.” Our good pals at Urban Dictionary define passion as “when you put more energy into something than is required to do it. It is more than just enthusiasm or excitement, passion is ambition that is materialized into action to put as much heart, mind body and soul into something as is possible.” (Both very reputable sources, I know).

Could this be it?? Is this my thing??

I feel like I’ve found a lot of things over the years that I enjoy greatly or that I hold a strong fondness for. Would I say I’ve found my passion? I have absolutely no idea. The idea of finding this one thing that will be all encompassing and drive me every day is a bit overwhelming. I mean, now I’m out here questioning every single thing I enjoy, which takes the fun away!

It’s a lot of pressure to put on ourselves to try to find this passion. We are expected to decide by age 20 what career path we want to follow and what difference we want to make in the world. How do you expect someone who has barely even lived to figure this out? Then we hear these horror stories about people who earn a difficult degree just to spend their life working a job they despise. Occasionally, of course, we get the happy stories, too. Of the woman who decided in her 40s to completely uproot her life and change her plans to align with her newly discovered passions. Congrats, ma’am.

I was getting pretty curious about what others think of passion and exploration, so I interviewed six therapists to see what they think! Therapists see clients daily who are seeking something from their life- whether it be meaning, passion, love, or something else entirely. Therefore, they are no stranger to handling questions about self discovery on the reg.

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So… What do therapists think?

Lucky for you, I asked a handful of therapists how they would define passion, and how they would recommend their clients find theirs (aka me and mine). I also asked if they feel that they have found their passion! Here are their thoughts:

“I think having passion for something means you feel physically and mentally invigorated when you do it. You’re so completely invested in whatever it is that you can stand being away from it. You do what you can to make sure whatever you are passionate about is taken care of to the best of you ability. I think people can find theirs by trying new things or revisiting things that made them feel “alive” before. Sometimes you do something like make a new recipe or try a new yoga pose and you get that rush of satisfaction with yourself and what you created.”

– T. T., California. Has found little passions and passion projects.

“I think I define passion by something that you put your whole self into. Energy, efforts, thoughts, feelings everything. And I think it depends on each person. Some people just know what their passionate about and for others it can take a lifetime of experimentation with different things but I think you can find it by looking at the intersections of your talents and your interests. But of course there’s a lot of other considerations like ability to actually do what your passionate about and utility or functionality, like what purpose can it serve either for you others.”

A.W., Connecticut. Has not fully found passion.

“I would say that spark that makes you wake up every morning to do what you do, and the motivation that drives your day to day activity. Perseverance, lots of trial and error and most importantly introspection will find it. Self discovery is a process and completely normally. Self discovery leads to passion.

M.B., Florida. Has “absolutely” found passion.

 I feel like passion is a feeling that combines excitement and curiosity, and even if you know a decent amount about something you’re still enthusiastic about learning more or continuing to practice it. I would say you find it through personal experiences, talking to other people about what they’re passionate about, and just exploring new topics and reading about new things and seeing what interests you and how you might be able to pursue it in your own life.

P.B., New York. Has found passion.

Good question. Maybe a drive for something. Like you want to be completely immersed in something and when you are it makes you feel whole. And you want to keep learning more about it and you’re willing to work hard and go through challenges if it means that you get to do the thing you’re passionate about.”

M.S., Illinois. Has a bunch of passions.

When you love to do something and you always want to get better at it. And usually it has personal emotional meaning for you. You can find it by doing “scary” things. Trying scary things has helped me find the things I love the most.”

K.M., Massachusetts. Has found many passions.
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It appears that there is a general consensus about what passion is, or at least what it can be. However, it also appears that finding passion isn’t as simple as a game of Where’s Waldo. There is no right answer to where to find your passion. It takes a lot of trial and error, triumphs and defeat to find what sparks that joy within. You may have one passion for a while and move on to a new passion later down the road. Or maybe you have a handful of mini passions at once. Passion is not simply one thing that will consume you until the end of time. It can be one giant passion plus a combination of passion projects that add up to one wholesome, passion-filled life. Embrace life’s offerings and find your passion organically.

All I know is, once you find that spark, try with all your might to keep it close throughout life. Do what you can to incorporate it into your routines and let nothing hold you back. Allow yourself to discover your joy and use the fulfillment to project warmth and passion into everything around you.

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Comments (29)

  • Matt

    May 14, 2020 at 12:01 pm

    I love this article. I think it is very well put together and shows first hand opinions on an important topic. In my opinion, passion is one of the 5 keys to success. You won’t be successful without a passion for what you do.

    1. Surabhi

      May 15, 2020 at 8:13 am

      Love this! It’s really important to find our passion

  • Lucy

    May 14, 2020 at 12:47 pm

    What a fantastic blog! A really insightful read about a concept we’re all familiar with but few of us take the time to fully understand. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • My Path To Travel

    May 14, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    Great post. I tick all the ‘passion’ boxes. I have found my passion which wakes me up in the morning and keeps me up late at night. Thanks for sharing.

  • Eugenie

    May 14, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    Thanks for sharing this! This has been a topic that I’ve personally been struggling with for the past year and slowly but surely getting there. Love the personal opinions from the different therapists!!

  • Alyssa

    May 14, 2020 at 2:47 pm

    Loved this! These are all great tips on finding your passion. Such a great read! Thanks for sharing!

  • Brian F

    May 14, 2020 at 2:56 pm

    Great thoughts! Passion is so underrated!

  • Azubike Eze

    May 14, 2020 at 5:18 pm

    Engaging in activities that make me feel “alive,” hits it for me. Of a truth, Engaging in my passion delivers emotional value and fulfillment to me.

  • Oscar

    May 14, 2020 at 11:06 pm

    Passion is hard to find, yet, once you established it, it is hard to untie yourself from it.

  • sumit walia

    May 15, 2020 at 1:52 am

    The opening visual where it is written Passion ed us Here, this one phrase set me thinking as I scrolled through your article. It is true that society expects us to be very clear by the time we are out of college as to what do we wish to do in life ahead and what is out passion. As said by you it is elusive and there is no clear benchmark to know whether we found the passion or not. It is nice to see that you consumed much abroad spectrum of specialists to come to a broad definition of what passion is !!!. But I think we all are broadly having an idea about finding it and maybe blogging is one of that.

  • Paolo

    May 15, 2020 at 2:32 am

    I agree with you. It takes time to finally find your true passion. Nice read

  • littlemisadvencha

    May 15, 2020 at 3:04 am

    I totally agree with this. I know I am passionate about one thing when Im totally immersed in doing it, regardless how tired I am. I always have that extra energy to finish or continue doing it. 🙂

  • PD

    May 15, 2020 at 8:49 am

    I so agree!!! I always found it incredible how young everyone has to make a career choice, choosing the field they want to work in, when they have not yet experienced anything. Still, I believe certain interests and ‘being drawn’ to something, manifest early. It can be quite a journey to figure these things out.

  • Lisa Marie Alioto

    May 15, 2020 at 12:17 pm

    I coach on this and it’s so true that there’s not one size fits all with this – we all find it in different ways

  • Utaji

    May 15, 2020 at 12:41 pm

    Passion and successful works hand in hand.
    Discovering your passion in something is key to real happiness. Thanks for sharing

  • Yaswanth J

    May 15, 2020 at 2:18 pm

    Great Post! Will surely help one find their passion after reading this.

  • Beth Elkassih

    May 15, 2020 at 5:03 pm

    Loved, loved, loved this post about passion. Thanks for sharing.

  • Nina

    May 15, 2020 at 10:23 pm

    I think passion is a determining factor whether you are in for success or failure. It’s hard to find the value of what you are doing without passion thus making it hard to give your best. Such an informative article!

  • Life mag health

    May 16, 2020 at 11:26 am

    It is really important to know what our passion is. And this is a great time to discover it and reflect about our life.

  • remo

    May 16, 2020 at 10:45 pm

    Passion is a phase. Our thought process changes from time to time and so our passions.

  • blair villanueva

    May 17, 2020 at 12:21 pm

    Sometimes our passion is right under our nose and we just didn’t notice it coz we are not focused. THis blog is very helpful!

  • Shelley at BeyondPennies

    May 18, 2020 at 2:02 am

    What a great article on finding your passion! I’ve told my 22 year old son that he needs to try a lot of different types of jobs and hobbies, and eventually he will find something he absolutely loves. Passion makes life worthwhile.

    1. shemindfully

      May 23, 2020 at 2:22 pm

      That’s a fantastic parenting approach! Too often we’re expected to “figure it out” early on in life without much experience. I’m happy to hear you’re encouraging exploration for your son!

  • aisasami

    May 18, 2020 at 2:44 pm

    What a beautifully written article about finding your passion. It is such an important thing that some people today forget about it.

  • Wendy

    May 18, 2020 at 4:32 pm

    I have always struggled with finding my passion. Thank you for sharing these tips.

  • Shristi

    May 19, 2020 at 1:56 pm

    Passion is the important key for a successful career but sometimes we get confused between what we like to do and what we are passionate about,that’s when we feel insecure. I hope everyone can find things and careers they are passionate about. Great read.

  • Iris C. Permuy Hércules de Solás

    May 20, 2020 at 4:23 pm

    I am lucky enough to have found my passions very early in my life, but I think your tips are spot on!

  • Keila

    May 22, 2020 at 12:34 am

    Great post! I agree with A.W., Connecticut. Passion for me is something that I devote my whole being too. I have not found what that is yet either but blogging and content creating gets closer to “passion” than anything else in my life right now.

    1. shemindfully

      May 22, 2020 at 11:57 pm

      Totally agree! Blogging has brought about a new passion in my life.

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