natural beauty

5-Step Guide to Discovering Your Natural Beauty

April 30, 2020shemindfully

I always love when people talk about embracing their “natural beauty.” There are always people who talk about this as if it is some mystical creature that doesn’t truly exist. Right along with the ever elusive self love and self confidence.

It can be really challenging to embrace our appearance without using anything to ~enhance our features~. We have been trained by the media and by society to want to look like the women on TV, on magazine covers, hell, nowadays, on YouTube and Instagram.

There is this idealistic beauty standard that is, quite honestly, unattainable and unrealistic. We cannot all have big eyes with dark eyelashes and perfect skin and plump lips perfectly shaped like a bow. It’s just not going to happen.

Yet they push these products on us day after day, hoping their subtle reminders of “you’re not good enough as you are” will sink in so we can go out and spend money on their most recent concoction.

Now that my rant is over, let’s get to the connection here.

I was sitting in my house (lolz quarantine) staring at the nature outside, when an interesting concept dawned on me. Why do we find nature so beautiful and enchanting, yet we regard ourselves much lower, when in reality we are comprised of the same colors and hues that nature is?

The only difference is the shape and texture, but even then we do not look at a rough leaf and say it is “ugly” compared to a smooth leaf. (Unless you do, in which case, I’m not sure how to help you). We do not look at a tree whose bark is splotchy and tell it it needs color correction. We do not stare into the sky and say “oh, gee, I wish that was a darker/lighter shade of blue.”

We do not criticize the form that nature comes in, so why are we so insistent on criticizing our own form?

mirror for self love and confidence
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For this exercise, grab a mirror and follow along! I want you to read the steps one at a time and try whatever it says. Really take your time and embrace whatever may come up for you:

*It is also a good idea to have a journal nearby to write down what you feel and what thoughts may be surfacing*

1. Skin
The first thing you’ll notice is likely your skin. I mean, it covers your whole face and body, sooo. Maybe you have problems with your skin so you pay close attention to it every day, but today we’re going to look at it in a different way.
When we look at a landscape, whether it be a mountain range or a beach, we don’t jump to analyzing it’s minuscule features and imperfections. We admire the beauty that is the scene before us. We appreciate the colors and the energy.
Take a close look at your skin. Notice what color it is. Do you have a tan right now? Or do you have slightly less color than normal? Maybe you’ll run your fingers over your skin and feel the texture. Try to stop any judgmental or negative self-talk that may come up. Just try to appreciate what you are seeing, accepting that this is your natural state and embracing it.

2. Eyes
When we think Earthy tones, we usually think blues, greens, and browns. How funny that those are also eye colors! Bring your attention to your eyes. What are your first thoughts? Are you criticizing the shape, or the asymmetry? Or are you admiring the colors?
See if you can think of where in nature you can find something that is the same color as your eyes. Perhaps it is the blue of the sky, or the green of moss, or the brown of wood. Take a few moments here to really admire your eyes for all that they are, and all that they help you to see.

3. Nose
Why is it that noses are such an odd thing to talk about? I feel like I only know a hand full of people who genuinely like their nose. I mean, people don’t exactly walk around shouting “I love the shape of my nose!!” because that wouldn’t be socially acceptable (I’m down with it, though).
Look at the shape of your nose. Don’t look at it relative to the surrounding face, just look at this one area. Is it really so bad? Maybe you have a cute nose piercing (or two) to add some flair.
People are endlessly fascinated by the various shapes and sizes of mountains and trees, so let’s bring that fascination here. Study the shape of your nose, regardless of how the skin may look or how you’ve viewed it previously. Who cares if there are any blemishes or discoloration. Mountains and trees have various patterns and so do we. This activity is all about loving our features for what they are, not wishing for something “better.”

4. Lips
I have a slightly different analogy for this one, but bear with me. Our lips act as waves. Bending and shaping themselves to produce sounds based on gravitational pull (our brains). The way they move is dependent on the pull from above. When we stop constantly beating ourselves up and being unloving towards our brains and bodies, we open ourselves up for positivity.
Positivity = smiles. Frequent smiles = rewiring brain = happy.
When waves part to reveal what’s underneath, people are so enthralled. Same with you, sunshine! When you open up and speak, people want to listen. Your smile is captivating whether you want to believe it or not (which you should).
Take 10 seconds to smile, and watch yourself smile. This may feel weird at first, but trust me. Watch how your lips spread from a straight line to that lovely U-shape. After the 10 seconds pass, smile bigger. Smile with teeth! Hold this for 10 seconds, or longer.

5. Face
Now that we’ve looked at individual parts, take a step back and look at your face as a whole. Notice how each part gracefully blends into the next, seamlessly. Our face is so similar to the Earth around us. Unique structures with their own unique features coming together to create something beautiful.
You are beautiful. You are glowing. You spread light and love daily. Do not let anyone dim your light.

Bonus! 6. Body
If you found this activity helpful for embracing the natural beauty of your gorgeous face, use the same techniques with the rest of your body! Get creative, think of how each part of you resembles a part of nature.

Takeaway: your natural beauty is infinite. The world around us is so enchanting and captivating, but so are we. All it takes is some self love and compassion to let our light shine.

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Comments (25)

  • Weird Louise

    April 30, 2020 at 10:29 am

    These are some great tips for discovering your natural beauty, I’ll be implementing these into my daily routine.

  • Taylor oldman

    April 30, 2020 at 11:15 am

    Hello there. I like what you said about natural beauty being infinite. It takes some wisdom to appreciate inner beauty and self acceptance.

  • Kathleen

    April 30, 2020 at 11:42 am

    Aww this was lovely! I love how you mentioned looking at ourselves in the same way that we look at nature and appreciate it for what it is. That’s so true! We all need love and affection, especially from our own selves!

  • Kev S

    April 30, 2020 at 5:04 pm

    I can appreciate my face and everyone else’s

  • thestreetqueenblog

    April 30, 2020 at 7:20 pm

    Ah! So true and can’t agree more.

  • Jen Talley

    April 30, 2020 at 8:30 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this. I have just started trying to practice positive self talk!

  • rebeccalerner622

    April 30, 2020 at 10:14 pm

    Great tips to discover your natural beauty!

  • Goldfish and Gin

    April 30, 2020 at 10:53 pm

    I really enjoyed this. I try to practice some form of body appreciation as much as I can.

  • JulesMaybeTryThis

    May 1, 2020 at 6:19 am

    I think you convey that, basically, many are beautiful in their own right. Very self-affirming.

  • Inspiring Vibes

    May 1, 2020 at 7:30 am

    I learn to discover my true self and now I am grateful for being myself! I like this piece so much, thanks for sharing πŸ’›

  • Polly Amora

    May 1, 2020 at 10:40 am

    Sometimes we look tend to notice the imperfection of things rather than the beauty of it. I’m mostly attracted to eyes, blue eyes to be specific (hence, most of my boyfriends have blue eyes lmao). Sometimes I get lost just staring at them. Thanks for this inspiring post!

  • kidneyfornikki

    May 1, 2020 at 10:58 pm

    Great post! I like your point about everyone liking nature but natural looks don’t get the same kind of respect. This is so true! Thanks for sharing this!

  • Ell x

    May 2, 2020 at 5:31 am

    Absolutely love this! Wonderful activity. Thanks for sharing ❀️

  • A fork on the road

    May 2, 2020 at 7:04 am

    I find it easy to do this with my face, because I’m quite cute, but with my body I still find it rather impossible… I need to keep trying!

  • aisasami

    May 2, 2020 at 7:45 am

    What a wonderful post to help others find their natural beauty. It is hard in this world to find it but so important.

  • Shelley from

    May 2, 2020 at 11:33 am

    Everyone has a natural beauty – sometimes it radiates from within and lights up a person’s face. I find that I’ve been able to embrace my own natural features more and more as I age and become more accepting of myself. I love how you compare each feature to something beautiful in nature – what a great way to learn an appreciation of our natural beauty!

  • GV Caplas

    May 3, 2020 at 12:01 am

    Taking a moment to appreciate everything I am made of really made me grateful of what I am now. Great post, thank you!

  • Bhagyashree

    May 4, 2020 at 8:15 am

    Aww!! Loved it πŸ’œ

  • wajeehagull

    May 4, 2020 at 8:35 am

    This is so brilliantly written, for people struggling with a bad self image, this is the article to read <3

  • Nikhila

    May 5, 2020 at 7:00 am

    Loved it. What you said is absolutely true. Good job.

  • Jodi Graham

    May 5, 2020 at 1:36 pm

    This is so lovely – thank you for sharing such a detailed and step-by-step process to appreciating ourselves more!

  • Ye Chen

    May 8, 2020 at 12:50 pm

    Thank you Kelly for your amazing tips. We can all use them from time to time πŸ™‚

  • Kait | Slumber & Scones

    May 8, 2020 at 2:58 pm

    What an inspiring post! I love the activity and can’t wait to try it.

  • Qarrey

    May 13, 2020 at 9:50 pm

    I love my natural beauty but sometimes I put on some make ups…for funπŸ˜€
    Thanks sharing these great tips to appreciate our beauty

  • Elizabeth O

    May 20, 2020 at 12:02 am

    Appreciating even the tiniest details about us is the first step for self-love. Great post

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